Narcissistic Traits

Narcissism Checklist They criticize to nitpick and demean you, not to empower you. Highly toxic people don’t give constructive criticism as a way to help you – they throw nuggets of disdain rather than wisdom your way in order to make you double your efforts to please...

Strategies for Divorcing a Narcissist

Divorcing a Narcissist When married to a narcissist, separating is only the first step to finding peace and starting your healing journey. There’s still the divorce, and most court systems encourage you to work with your abuser to find a peaceful resolution. Working...

The Engrained Narratives of Abuse

Today we drove to Mt. Washington Resort to have a night to relax before a wedding tomorrow. I took my daughter as my date. I honestly couldn’t think of a better dancing partner. The drive up was long and I listened to Elissa Wall on Mormon Stories for most of...

I hate the rhetoric on Self Love

I hate the rhetoric on self love. I hate the narrative of you have to love yourself before you can have anything or do anything or heal anything… Children, like me, who grew up in a home where it was normal for a parent to tell you what you think or what you...

Hiring a Divorce Coach

When is the best time to hire an abuse coach? Yesterday! But today is good too. If you have experienced and are continuing to experience post-separation abuse (no matter how subtle it might be) then you need someone in your corner who knows what you’re going through...