Understanding the Cycle of Abuse

The Cycle of Abuse in a Domestic Partnership is important to understand if you are in an abusive relationship. The simplest way I’ve seen the cycle described is this: the person gets hurt, the abuser gets away with it, and they both claim the victim is the crazy...

The Cycle of Abuse

The Cycle of Abuse in a Domestic Partnership is important to understand if you are in an abusive relationship. This is the simplest way I’ve seen the cycle described: the person gets hurt, the abuser gets away with it, and they claim that their victim is the...

Resources on Narcissism

How a Narcissist Uses Your Emotions to Regulate Themselves Spotting the Hoovering Techniques of a Narcissist Why Couples Therapy Doesn’t Work How Narcissists Use YOUR Nervous System to Regulate Themselves 10 Behaviors That Give Supply to a Narcissist You cannot...

Signs someone is willing to change abusive behavior

Committing to outside help (there is no “working on myself by myself”) Admitting fully to what he has done Stopping excuses Stopping all blaming Making amends for what has been done Accepting responsibility (recognizing that abuse is a choice) Identifying...

The way to win with a Narcissist

This one will be short and not very sweet. The game with a Narcissist is rigged. We have NO Emotional LEVERAGE over narcissists. They do not care. They have leverage over the situation, because we care and have empathy. There is NOTHING you can do to gain emotional...

I Hate the Rhetoric on Self Love

Most people don’t know how to build up their own self worth. I’ve had my own battles with self love, self worth, self-esteem and self care. I certainly didn’t resent all the words associated with it. When I was healing, all I knew is that I wanted to...

How Does Emotional Abuse Feel?

When emotional abuse is taking place, it may be obvious to those on the outside, or it may be very difficult to detect because everything seems “normal”. It may even have been going on for a while, but the attitudes and indications of those involved have...

Conversations with a Narcissist are Exhausting

Conversations with a narcissist are exhausting, dizzying, nerve-racking, and make you feel like you’re going insane. Often people will question their own reality and their sanity. The circular conversations leave you feeling worse off than if you had never had them in...