Trauma Bonding and How We Can Heal

Traumatic bonding is a strong emotional attachment between an abused person and his or her abuser, formed because of the cycle of domestic violence. If you are in a trauma bond, I believe you saw the absolute best and the absolute worst of your partner. I am also sure...

What are Signs of Emotional Abuse?

Emotional and verbal abuse as displayed in the movies typically looks very overt and controlling. It’s very obvious. It can look like: telling somebody what to do, sneaking into someone else’s phone, telling them who they can see, yelling and screaming and...

Will my emotionally abusive partner change?

Many victims of narcissism, manipulation and abuse desperately want to know if their abusive partner is changing, or if he even can change. This is very normal. You are likely an empathetic person who would make changes if you were hurting someone you care about. This...

My Story

My story used to sound like this: “In my 20’s I took on the project of un-shallowing myself. I was going for the same kind of guy and getting the same result: an asshole with arm muscles who can go jab for jab with me but doesn’t prioritize me. I’d joke,...